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If You See a Toilet in Your Dreams

If you see a toilet in your dreams, don’t use it—it’s a trap.

When I was growing up I was more of an “in the moment” guy. I didn’t necessarily have goals or dreams. I just knew I wanted to be rich and successful, have a pretty wife, and well-behaved children. You know, the usual stuff most people want when they are teenagers. I had no idea how to achieve any of that.

My wife, God bless her heart, got me on the right track. When we started dating in my 20s she asked me what some of my dreams were. I told her one was about a T-Rex who didn’t get a job because he couldn’t tie a tie. She almost broke up with me because she was talking about goals. I made her a mixtape of Boyz II Men songs and it worked—she talked to me again. So, in honor of them I am going to make three important references to Boyz II Men before this article is over.

We all know the usual suspects when it comes to our goals/dreams failing. The Hall of Fame answers are drugs, alcohol, corrupt friends, procrastination, and no ambition. There are more but we know those ones well because we are familiar with someone who has fallen because of them. This may even apply to some of you reading this article.

One thing I have learned is that for your dreams to work out they must be in line with the will of God. You don’t decide what you want to do, then include God. You start off by including God, then He directs your steps. But what about the things in our lives that seem very helpful or beneficial that stunt our dreams from becoming reality? How do we successfully deal with those without coming off as spoiled or entitled? I am so glad you are here. Let’s dive in with three things that seem good but once you and God are in lockstep, can derail your dreams if you let them.

Having Kids

My Netflix account has profiles set up as “Guy who pays,” and for my two kids they are labelled “Parasite 1” and “Parasite 2.” I let them fight over who is who. Some of you are probably saying, “But…but children are a blessing from the Lord,” and you are right. Especially during “tax return” time and “come in here and hand me that remote that is five feet away from me” time. I am sure they are beneficial during other times, but those are the most recent memories that I have. Kids use a tremendous amount of resources, time, and energy. A normal day is after you get off work, you then (insert activity), then do dinner, and then help with homework, including this cursed new math. Somewhere in there you should remember you have a spouse/significant other. By the time you clean up and take a shower it’s already 11:39 p.m. and your dream that you were supposed to be working on becomes a literal dream because you fall asleep in the closet while trying on clothes for tomorrow.

Or maybe you had a budget for your dream, and you are ready to start and you get that “I’m late” text from your wife. Or perhaps you were the one that sent that text and now the only dream you have is of dollar signs with wings leaving your bank account. Clothes, food, tutors, sport, violin, college, a house instead of an apartment, and an SUV instead of a Honda Civic. Kids demand so much. How am I supposed to start my coffee shop now when this kid needs a yard to play in? Cue Boyz II Men singing “It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday” while your dream packs up and leaves.

Don’t worry, God has got your back. He will send you help (accept it), signs (pay attention to them), encouragement (embrace it), and resources (use them). He wants your dream to flourish. If your dream is God’s will then God will make a way. One day, your kids will see your dream become a success and it will make them better people. At worst, they will grow up to be professional remote-control retrievers, if that ever becomes a career.

Falling in Love

Wait, what? I thought love “was a many-splendored thing?” It is, but it will make you do some insane things. For example, I don’t understand how God can have 10 commandments for the entire world but my wife has 172 rules just for our house. But I know it’s because she loves me (or so she says). When I consistently break approximately 169 of those rules, she looks at me with what can only be described as “divorce eyes,” but she never actually calls the attorney. That is healthy love. But what about when you are on step four of your six-part plan for your dream and your significant other must move five states over because of a promotion? Or things are so bad in the marriage that you must spend more time working on things instead of your dream?  And you have to say those magic words: “But I love him/her.” Siri, please play Boyz II Men “It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday” as you watch your dream drive away.

A lot of times we love our dream or what our dreams can bring us more than we love God. God is a jealous God. You start and then continue to love someone or something more than Him and it might as well be a low-rated sitcom—he/she/it is getting canceled. Learn to love God, and you will learn a healthy love for anything else in your life. Trust me, I have about 87 love songs on my playlist. (I made a mixtape once).

Your Upbringing

I am going to tread lightly here before I get angry emails about how I disrespected someone’s mother. My mother called me the other day to fix her computer and I was so happy about that. Not because I got to help her but because I was like, “Well, well, well, if it isn’t Miss ‘get off that computer’ years 1994-2006.” Imagine if I had just gotten off the computer like she wanted, and never kept at it. I would be in terrible shape right now. Your grandparents, parents, crazy uncle, and sophisticated aunt all had a hand in raising you. The good and the bad. But only the truth they teach you about God will help you the most.

I had an uncle who gave me excellent advice when he said:“If it’s one thing video games teach us it’s that when you meet enemies that means you are going in the right direction, so do not give up on your dreams.” But this is also the same uncle who calls a chicken tender a “ranch shovel,” so I don’t know. So, my advice: use what you were taught growing up wisely. That could be the difference between your local newspaper writing an article about how you overcame adversity and succeeded in your dream, or you sliding down a wall crying and asking Alexa to play Boyz II Men “It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday,” as your dream rides off into the sunset. (That’s three references. You’re welcome.) God places people in your life, throughout your life to help you (let them), but don’t let them destroy your dream. Make sure they actually are helping you.

These are three things I have personally let end one dream or another. I wish I hadn’t, but it happened. All three are things people would say are excellent things to have in your life. They are, but if handled incorrectly, they could be a major detriment. Make sure your dreams line up with God’s will. Seek His wisdom, and obey His commandments. God is the real answer you are looking for, because one day you will be in a dream and you will see a toilet. Don’t use it. It’s a trap.

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Prescott Williamson is a Bible-believing Christian, a husband, and a father. Prescott also believes there is a little humor to be found in whatever situation God sends our way. He was born in the small islands of the Bahamas but now lives in the suburbs of Fort Worth, Texas, which is basically the same thing. He enjoys watching TV, reading, blogging, and serving in his church (especially on the days they serve donuts). You can see what he's been thinking about lately at


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